Decoration: Candelabrum with Five Lights

In addition to candelabrums with three lights on women's graves, many graves have a candelabrum with five lights.

As far as I can see, every candelabrum seems to be unique in its design. In other words, the candelabrum is not a standardized symbol, but seems to reflect something personal. 

In my fantasy, I sometimes imagine the family bringing the deceased woman's candelabrum to the stonecutter to incorporate the design for the gravestone.